“Getting in the Game”

How We Can Act

What’s Here?

#1 As “Citizens” We Act from our “Larger Selves”

#2 We Counter the Natural Lure of Acting from Our
“Smaller Selves” and Becoming “Subjects”

#3 We Build on Our Strengths

#4 We Avoid the “Aw Shucks” Phenomenon

#5 We Avoid the “Competency Trap”

#6 It’s a Different Challenge for Different People

#7 We Act Now – We do Not Wait

#8 How We Can Act as Citizens – Example Categories

#9 We Can Take the Next 3-5 Steps

Many more actions are possible.  Starting small is OK. The key is to be engaged in some ways and not on the sideline.

#1 As “Citizens” We Act from our “Larger Selves.”

At this point in time we are challenged to be confident responsible “citizens” that act to make a difference – not weak insecure “subjects” that retreat into dependence.

Even if we feel small, we must “play large.” Being citizens vs. subjects requires acting from our larger selves because of the scope and scale of the challenges we face. Our larger selves come from a base of courage, commitment, responsibility, perseverance, and resilience – developed over a lifetime. Those qualities are there to a surprising degree if we call for them.

To protect the American experiment in democracy we must act from a sense that we can make a difference. Even if we don’t know exactly how or what difference we can make when we start – we just need to step up and start. We can stand upon and model the foundation blocks of American Greatness that we have inherited in order to draw upon our best – and we can find new “bests” in the process.

Our larger selves give us the confidence to take on the big tough issues any generation faces as well as the security to transcend our differences and sacrifice for the common good – just as the founders did and as Americans have over the past 250 years when called upon.

For Example – The Personal Qualities of Revolutionary Americans


One of the foundation blocks on which we can stand as we answer the call to act is a set of “larger self” qualities modeled by our founders. They modeled these qualities proving that it’s possible to succeed in an extraordinary challenge against all odds. We can draw upon their example of acting from their larger selves.

  1. Courage – The founders risked their lives, fortunes, and reputations to resist the world’s strongest empire.
  2. Conviction – A deep belief in natural rights, liberty, and self-governance motivated individuals to act together, even when odds were heavily against them.
  3. Resilience – Patriots endured hardship, including economic deprivation, personal loss, and military defeats and kept “bouncing back” smarter and stronger.
  4. Leadership – A critical mass of key individuals like George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Abigail Adams, and Benjamin Franklin demonstrated foresight, moral clarity, and strategic thinking and were role models for others.
  5. Ingenuity – Americans relied on innovation, not only with guerrilla tactics in battle, but also with new ideas in politics, communication, and diplomacy. And they continued to innovate with experience.
  6. Sacrifice – Many gave up property, status, and even family safety for the cause.
  7. Perseverance – Americans refused to give up even in the face of ongoing sacrifices, lots of setbacks, and plenty of doubts and uncertainty – a “no quit” mentality and discipline over several years.
  8. Action – each person took action in their own way with most people stretching far beyond their comfort zones for a long time.
  9. Trust/Belief – Americans took the risk to trust those in leadership roles and commit themselves to following effectively.
  10. Shared Vision – Citizens held a shared vision that was worth the risk, sacrifice, and effort to pursue
  11. Solidarity – although there was a significant range of interests among people and colonies in the American population, there was a critical mass of common ground and solidarity around the vision

These are examples from our founding and our challenge now as citizens is to determine what is asked of us now and act to match the challenges we face.

#2 We Counter the Natural Lure of Acting from Our
“Smaller Selves” and Becoming “Subjects”

Our smaller selves are ruled by fear, by feeling weak, anxious, doubting, insecure, and by having little faith in our own abilities or those of our fellow citizens. Our smaller selves are characterized by victimhood,
grievances, the fear of “others” and a lack of confidence in our ability to carry the responsibility of governing ourselves.

When we retreat to our smaller selves we basically fall victim to a strong sense of needing to be taken care of – to be dependent – to be subjects, not citizens. It is fundamentally a belief that we can’t take care
of ourselves and need a “savior(s).”

To be citizens and not subjects we must directly acknowledge and counter the natural draw of giving up and retreating into our smaller selves – giving in to doubts, a lack of confidence in ourselves and each other as well as our processes and institutions – and the desire for an image of certainty (authoritarian rule)regardless of how empty that image always is.

And those authoritarian forces are relying on the ability to make Americans feel small and weak and unable to care for themselves – being diminished, giving up and becoming “subjects.” They do not want us acting from our “larger selves” as citizens. They want us acting from our weak “smaller selves” as subjects.

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don‘t have any.”
Alice Walker

#3 We Build on Our Strengths

One of the most important factors in getting to sustained effective action is feeling competent to act. And we are competent to act. We have developed surprising strengths over the course of our lifetimes, and we can use those strength – now – and develop new strengths as we go.

We face challenges with a great deal of complexity and unknown and it can cause a lot of anxiety and doubt about our ability to be competent in acting to counter those challenges.

We have a great deal to learn, but it’s also true that we bring a lot of strengths to the game – strengths that we have developed over time in our personal and professional lives. The best way to develop the new strengths required is to build on our current strengths – while we take action.

Some of that strength building needs to be done to prepare for effective action, but most of it needs to happen while we are acting – while we are “in the game.” A major trap that we must avoid is getting stuck on the sidelines preparing to act. We have significant strengths. We can begin and “learn the way” as we go.

“It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you are not.”
Author Unknown

That is acting from our larger selves and being effective citizens. There are, however, a few natural pitfalls that we need to avoid that can pull us down into our smaller selves.

#4 We Avoid the “Aw Shucks” Phenomenon

The “Aw Shucks” phenomenon does not come from being humble. It comes from our smaller selves and is both a way to avoid our responsibility as citizens as well as being a lie. We are not helpless or inadequate. We are people of significance and perfectly capable of acting now – drawing on the personal or professional strengths we have developed – being citizens, not subjects

Falling prey to the “aw shucks” phenomenon is evidenced by the following thoughts or statements.

  • “Aw shucks, I don’t really know much about countering authoritarians, protecting our democracy or taking on the big tough intimidating issues in our world.”
  • “Aw shucks, I don’t really bring much to the effort.
  • “Aw shucks, I don’t really know how to go about even getting in the game.”
  • “Aw shucks, I don’t think I have much to offer.”
  • “Aw shucks, I’m not really connected to anyone doing this work.”
  • “Aw shucks, I don’t even know the first steps to take.”
  • “Aw shucks, people won’t really want me involved.”
  • “Aw shucks, I’m just……………”
  • “Aw shucks, I’m not…………..”

“Aw Shucks” Diminishes Us and is an Excuse to Not Commit

The “Aw Shucks’” phenomenon is real. And unfortunately it is pretty natural and very powerful.

 

  • It provides an excuse to avoid engaging at all
  • It provides an excuse to stay on the sidelines preparing
  • It provides an excuse to be a “toe dipper” or to withdraw at the first sign of frustration or setback
  • It infects others, and groups can collude in using it as an excuse to avoid engaging (consciously or unconsciously)

 

The “Aw Shucks” phenomenon naturally undermines our “larger selves.” It must be seen and countered.

“Courage is the commitment to begin without any guarantee of success.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

#5 We Avoid the “Competency Trap”

The trap is getting caught in preparing to get in the game to such an extent that we never really get off the sidelines. We prepare on the sidelines to be competent, but never get in the game, so authoritarians win by default.

However, feeling anxious about not being fully prepared is natural and it does need to be addressed. The fear of being incompetent – and maybe making things worse – is one of the sneakiest barriers to acting. But, we can acknowledge these dynamics and not be deterred by them if we act from our larger selves. The key is to commit to action without feeling fully prepared and completely “ready.”

There are two reasons why this works:

  1. We naturally bring most of the needed capabilities. We probably bring anywhere from 70-90% of the competencies required to be effective citizens simply because we have developed personal and professional competencies throughout our lives. So, the key is to identify and rely on those competencies as we develop the new competencies and understanding we might need – mostly as we act and get in the game.
  2. We can develop the other capabilities we need. Those 10-30% of competencies are important, but we aren’t starting from scratch, and we don’t need to be expert at everything to make a difference. Plus, most of the new competencies will be developed faster and better while we are in action vs. trying to develop them on the sidelines. We have developed competencies throughout life and can accelerate that development for the most important competencies, particularly if we develop with others.
“Never be afraid to do something new. Remember, amateurs built the ark; professionals built the Titanic.”
Unknown

Our best approach is to discover the needed competencies with a sense of excitement, anticipation, and confidence (our larger selves). This is a major and never-ending challenge simply because there is so much for us to discover about our world and ourselves. And it can even be energizing, particularly if we are engaged with others.

If we fall prey to too much doubt, anxiety, or feeling inadequate (our smaller selves) we can end up paralyzed, diminished and of little use. It really is a choice and well within our control, so we need to act from our larger selves and avoid the competency trap.

It helps to think about building new strengths in three phases to keep the competency building challenge in perspective.

 

  1. Immediate Goals – strengths required to get off the sidelines. “Are there really any capabilities or knowledge sets that I need to develop before I take significant action?” If so, there should not be many. Too much prepping on the sidelines is a trap. We need to jump on it, get it done, and get in the game.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Mark Twain

         2. Developmental Goals – strengths you want to build “on the path” for increased effectiveness. Some of these knowledge sets and competencies may be evident before engaging and some will emerge as you act and learn. These are the strengths that can enable to you make larger and larger contributions as a citizen. Some may be evident in the beginning, and some may emerge with experience.

        3. Stretch Goals – the ideal strength profile for you as a citizen. It’s always good to have stretch goals, but they should not slow down action at all. Nor should you feel bad if you don’t reach your stretch goals in the timeframe you initially set. They are stretch goals after all.

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”
Randy Pausch

#6 It’s a Different Challenge for Different People

There is no formula or recipe for being an effective citizen. We all lead busy challenging lives with various demands. Our response to the call to act now will look different for different people. There is no single “right way” to answer the call. We just need to answer in our own way – now.

Some people are barely keeping their heads above water in general. Some people have resources and energy that they can redeploy to make a difference. Some people are more comfortable dealing with the unknown in the challenges we face than others. Some people have knowledge and skills that better match the challenges than others. Some people have family and friend groups that are more likely to support them than others.

In other words, “getting in the game” as an effective citizen is a radically different call to action for different people. There is no single “right way” to respond to the call to act. Each person needs to find their own path and we need to respect the differences. The key is to act and play a role, even a small role.

Small roles matter. Small roles can grow. Staying on the sidelines, however, is supporting the dramatic shift from citizen to subject. That’s what authoritarians count on.

We can choose small actions and start immediately. We can add actions as we are ready. Note. “Being ready” does not mean feeling comfortable. It means being willing to take the risks and take the next steps. Our comfort zones will expand, but most of us will need to tolerate being outside of our comfort zones in the beginning.

“If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl. But whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.

#7 We Act Now – We do Not Wait
We are Either “in the Game” or “out of the Game”

Failing to act now is simply a way of passively supporting the authoritarians who want to rule us as subjects. We either step up, or we get stepped on. There is no middle ground. We can be active or passive subjects. But we can only be active citizens.

The American experiment in democracy is threatened – now. The big tough intimidating issues we face in our world require action – now. That means we need to act now. We can start small and increase our activity as we “learn the way” and get more comfortable acting. We can start even though we feel anxious and not ready and we can build our confidence and capability as we go. But, we need to act now.

“Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful.”
Mark Victor Hansen

#8 How We Can Act as Citizens – Example Categories

There is a surprisingly wide range of actions that we can take from our larger selves to be effective citizens right now and that’s both good and bad.
It’s good because there are a lot of actions that we can take as citizens right now. It’s bad because there are a lot of actions that we can take as citizens right now. So, the problem isn’t a lack of actions that we can take, it’s not being intimidated by how many there are and choosing which to take – now.

Citizen actions can range from protesting/challenging, advocating, donating money, and volunteering to collaborating with others, coaching/mentoring, teaching, setting policy, role modeling, etc. There are lots of places to act and lots of ways to act to make a difference – large or small.

We can choose different actions in the different domains in which we live. We are all members of various “worlds” or domains, and our actions can influence any of them – family, friends and acquaintances, neighborhoods, communities (local, national or international), organizations and corporations, faith communities, schools, etc. We just choose where to start. We can always expand our sphere of influence.

For Example:

  1. We Can Make Connections. You have connections to others – individuals, family, groups, organizations and networks. Those connections may be face-to-face, digital, etc. They may be connections to funding, political influence both individuals or groups. They may be connections to journalists, individuals or groups with information or data, or specific groups in a community, such as police or faith communities. Whether they are powerful or not so powerful, they are still connections and can still be used.
  2. We Can Donate Money. Money matters because it makes things happen. You can’t fund everything, but you can choose where you want your money to go. Do some research to ensure that your money will be likely to result in desired outcomes and follow up to ensure performance. You can donate individually or recruit others to donate with you.
  3. We Can Volunteer. You have professional and personal capabilities. Volunteering where your capabilities match need can be a major contribution. There is an extraordinary range of capabilities that can make a difference – from fundraising and senior administrative or clerical support, to providing childcare, transportation, publicity, and getting out the vote. There is a broad range of need and a broad range of capabilities. Finding the fit is the key and that may take some effort.

Note. Make sure to leave “I’m just a volunteer” at the door. Bring the same commitment and professionalism that you would for a highly paid position. And, if the organization doesn’t take volunteers seriously, challenge them or move on.

“The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high, and we miss it, but that it is too low, and we reach it.”
Michaelangelo
  1. We Can Be a Role Model. Our actions speak and people are watching and listening. Consciously modeling the qualities of an effective citizen can be surprisingly powerful. Our actions say, “this is what I value and what I believe in and what I will champion.” It also says, “we are significant as citizens, and I invite you to join me.” By role modeling you are also demonstrating to others that the behavior you choose to model is possible for others
  2. We Can Encourage Others to Act. We can encourage others to understand and model the qualities of our founders – the qualities underlying American Greatness – promoting courage over fear, hope over anger, and perseverance and resilience in the face of daunting challenges.
  3. We Can Set Policy. This obviously applies to people in roles that can set policy, but policy can be set in many settings – from a home and neighborhood to organizations, companies, and communities. Policy can be set with others. And you can influence policy even if you don’t have full authority to set it.
  4. We Can Be Part of the Advocacy Process. This is surprisingly important. Advocacy is often key in making the desired systemic changes, yet most of us don’t see ourselves as “advocates.” We can all be advocates in small settings and we can be part of the advocacy process in big complex settings.An effective advocacy process requires a surprising number of people with complementary skills and experience. We don’t need to be a high profile “advocate” in those settings. We can make a difference by playing a role(s) that fits our capabilities and experience and the needs of the advocacy process.
  5. We Can Protest Peacefully (be present). The authoritarian forces are executing the authoritarian playbook to undermine our democratic processes and institutions – as well as sabotage efforts to take on the big tough issues we face in our world. One of the most effective ways to counter those efforts is to literally call them out and protest. That can happen in meetings, in print, digitally, and in the street. Many/most of us are not comfortable protesting, so this is an area that usually requires a committed effort to get outside our comfort zones (and expand them).
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”
Arthur Ashe
  1. We Can Hold Public Officials Accountable.  There is no single action that is “the answer” in holding people accountable and this often requires working with or supporting others.  But there are some specific actions that you can take(individually or collectively) that add up. You can work to get officials elected or appointed that stand for your values and beliefs.  You can let them know where you stand on issues and what you expect of them.  You can support accountable officials in various ways (donating, volunteering, etc.).  You can also support organizations and officials with the responsibility of holding government bodies and officials accountable (from watchdogs to inspector generals   
  2. We Can Be Active in Civic Organizations.  You can join civic organizations.  You can attend public forums, town halls, digital meetings, etc.  You can start a civic organization.  You can support civic organizations financially.  You can help organizations form coalitions, advocate together, etc.  You can advocate and/or protest with civic organizations.  You can  bring others with you to the organizations.
  3. We Can Counter Polarization.  You can get outside your bubble/echo chamber – outside your comfort zone – and expand your understanding, appreciation, and connection to “others” – those not like you.  You can seek out others with differing viewpoints and life experiences, be disciplined in understanding multiple points of view, challenge misinformation, and “seek first to understand before being understood.”   

#9 We Can Take the Next 3-5 Steps

Being a Citizen, not a Subject – and Modeling Aspects of American Greatness

Being a citizen and stepping up to model aspects of American Greatness vs. being stepped on as a “subject” of authoritarians is a big deal, but it does not need to be overly complex.

“Keep it simple.” You can choose 3-5 simple actions to get started or build on what you are already doing to add some momentum. The categories of action listed here are only examples to stimulate thinking and action. They are not prescriptive – not saying “you should do this.” There is no “right profile.” Some examples are more specific than others. Some are less obvious and require some exploration or experimentation. These are just examples.

Starting small is OK. The key is to be engaged in some ways as a citizen and not be on the sideline as a subject. We either act as citizens or we passively or actively support the authoritarians in destroying our hard-won democracy. There is really no middle ground. We step up or we get stepped on.

“Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask, act. Action will delineate and define you.”
Thomas Jefferson

To get started you can simply choose 3-5 specific actions that you are willing to take – and take them. Then, based on your experience, you can continue them, build on them and add to them, or change them. If you are already heavily involved in fighting for our democratic way of life you will already be doing many of these, so simply affirm them and see if there are any more you can add if that is not too onerous.

#10 It’s a Matter of a Critical Mass

With a critical mass of individual citizen actions “the magic happens” – surprisingly.

Our smaller selves will argue that what we do as an individual person doesn’t
really matter because the challenges are so large and complex and we can’t see the answers at the beginning. It’s true that no single citizen can fix what’s wrong with our democracy or the world in which we live.

What’s also true – and much more important – is that the actions of individual citizens matter because what we need to achieve is “critical mass.” Without individual action, nothing changes, our democracy collapses, and we revert to being subjects of the authoritarians that are always lurking and looking for prey.

 

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”
William James

Remember Three Things

  1. We act – from our “larger selves.” To be a citizen vs. a subject we must act with intention – and persevere to sustain our actions. We act from courage, strong values, and the ability to persevere and be resilient. We can start small, but we need to start. We will “learn the way” and find new ways to act as we go. We call on our best and discover new “bests.”
  1. We build on strength. There is a lot to learn, and the challenges are big and complex with no obvious certain answers. But we bring a lot of competencies, experience, and personal and professional qualities developed over a lifetime. So, we can bring a combination of confidence and humility to the challenge – and look forward to growing and making a difference as we meet the challenges.
  2. We get outside our comfort zones – with excitement. We will often be outside our comfort zones, but that’s where the difference gets made and our growth happens. “Discomfort” is different than “damage” and we can tolerate a good deal of discomfort, particularly if we are connected to others for support. This is not an either/or challenge. We will not be completely outside our comfort zones – just in certain areas where we have not been focused previously.

“Let no one be discouraged by the belief that there is nothing
one man or one woman can do against the enormous
array of the world’s ills — against misery and ignorance,
injustice, and violence… Few will have the greatness
to bend history itself; but each of us can work to change
a small portion of events, and in the total of all those
acts will be written the history of this generation.

It is from the numberless diverse acts of courage and
belief that human history is shaped. Each time a man
(or a woman) stands up for an ideal,
or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes
out against injustice, he (or she or they) sends a tiny
ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million
different centers of energy and daring, those ripples build
a current which can sweep down the mightiest
walls of oppression and resistance.”

Robert Francis Kennedy speech at Day of Affirmation,
University of Capetown, South Africa